As a woman in her mid-forties, having experienced marriage, motherhood, and a deep desire to do good in the world, I truly believed I had a firm grasp on my core life values. I had lived enough, experienced enough, and achieved enough to know myself, right? What I discovered challenged everything I thought I knew about myself.

A couple of months ago, I gifted myself a two-week personal retreat. After a year of constant movement, filled with both personal milestones and professional momentum, I decided it was time to slow down and reset in true alignment with myself. Sometimes the greatest gift we can give ourselves is permission to pause.

Last week, one of my daughters came to me to say she had decided not to attend a party she was invited to. Before I had a chance to respond, she launched into a lengthy explanation of all the reasons why she wasn't going. And there it was again—this almost reflexive need to validate our decisions with perfect logic, even when no one is questioning it.

"You're so strong!"—I've been told this numerous times over the last several years as people get to know me and learn about my life. Emotional strength is an incredible quality to possess, and I'm grateful for the acknowledgement, but the truth is that strength didn't show up at my doorstep when I was faced with challenging circumstances.